Acharya ji, one query on the last line in the post “express love fearlessly in all ways to all people in all circumstances but do not be discouraged or disturbed if you are misunderstood. Gradually everything will fall in its right place.”
when you say:
‘Love fearlessly’ – Does this include sexually expressing love also?
‘All people and circumstances’ does it mean outside marital space as well?
– S S
Love is never a thing about which one can raise question about but you can ask about sex. Why? Because one deeply knows.. Love and Sex are not the same. The question whether I can express it sexually… hmmm. Look at your question. The question itself suggests that you are pretty sure that love is good but deep down you are not sure whether sexuality has anything to with this love. Hence the question.
Further it is also a possibility that you are seeking my approval to engage in something about which you aren’t sure or hesitant. To be able to express love one should know what love is, what is the source of love and then only the question of expressing it comes.
Mostly when people say ‘I love you’ they mean ‘I need you’ or “I like being with you” or “I am feeling great in your presence”. The undercurrents are always “I want to enter in to your energy field” or “I want to be associated with you”. Although one says “I love you” but he/she means altogether different thing. One is wanting… desiring and thirst for something. What most of the times people feel is that such and such person, thing or place ignites good feelings in them. Love is not like that… If you are anxious.. desirous or incomplete now.. then you shall be seeking something, someone or some action to fill that vacuum. However love is exactly opposite of it – Love is an emotion which spills over when one feels complete.. joyous and fulfilled. When you have gotten more than you keep.. it has to spill over.. and it spills.
Simple analogy.. when your anger gets bigger than the pot of your body and mind. It spills on others. You cant express anger unless you are FULL of anger.. so much so that it crosses the limit of your cup. It has to spill now. How love can be any different?
Since you have not asked “How to become so full of love that it spills out naturally?” I am sure that you are pretty convinced about your having plenty of it. In all probability you are taking this deep yearning to be ‘Love’. You shall run out of your so called love the moment you are able to expel it out of your body. That is what it is happens to you.. when you express (pour it out in the form of bodily juices) your love sexually. Once you are done with that type of expression you shall find no reason to be loving for few hours (at least), your cup will be empty. All the love will evaporate, the sweetness of that pain which deep desiring causes will be gone and you may even start doubting of your action of expressing it the way you did there. Yet your question is still valid and I believe is a potential possibility.
Expression of love in every act is possible.. when you feel the abundant love of divine upon you. When you see your true face in the mirror of your consciousness you realize the love and light it radiates. The aura of yours become loving then.. You don’t have to take efforts in expressing it… sex or no sex, it will just flow because then you become the source of Love and light. And once you discover that energy of ‘Love’ within through your spiritual endeavours like Yoga, Tantra or any other spiritual system of self discovery you become free. No rules can hold you from expressing it in anyway and anywhere you like except the one’s you are guided intuitively.
S S, You can express your love freely.. in the ways you are comfortable with; Only if expressing it that way fills you with more love and doesn’t trigger this divine fragrance to fade away even for a moment by any means- be it due to the chosen expression/act or consequences thereof. Staying honest, aware and courageous will give you better understanding of my expression “Love Freely” and then who knows you may choose to be a rebel, someone living life through one’s own rules… freely. Nonetheless, I insist, you must remain free throughout.. always, in all ways. I am now expecting another question from you “How can I become love”. (Smiles)
Blessings from Masters..
– Acharya Agyaatadarshan Anand Nath