I have a question master . I love my life but my problem is i have a fear in spiritual path . i have no marriage and sex. Mostly many master have no interest in women, love and sex. But i love attract women, respect any women felling but my doubt is sex is against spiritual and god way. Sex is natural ya unnatural ..? -P.K.
You say “I love my life but fear in spiritual path”… You are honest. I am happy you admit your fears so openly and easily. Anyone who loves his/her life wouldn’t like to go beyond ‘life’. It is almost impossible to engage in spirituality unless you are faced with some situation in life which makes life a burden, a pain, a nightmare or an unending unpleasant grinding. People choose spirituality as a convenient way to ignore their problems.. to forget that they have problems. They go on doing many stupid things expecting that will change the way they feel.. and I tell you such people fail miserably in their spiritual endeavours as well. Their baggage of ‘life’ haunts them till their meditation mats and they are unable to take off.
But people fear leaving what they have. It is natural. Who knows what one will get in meditation or any other spiritual practices? Your logic is perfectly fine.. I am happy now, I am enjoying my life, I am loving the way it is unfolding. People generally postpone their journey in spirituality solely because they are doubtful about the gains… and there’s is no gain if you ask me. As of now there is a person existing in you.. tomorrow when your spirituality ripens even that person won’t be there. But if I stop here and don’t tell you more about what you will gain it would be unjust. So I choose to say further… You will definitely lose yourself in the ‘path’ but that loss, that void shall be filled with infinite joy, unbound peace and outstanding wisdom. You will not remain a person but you shall become God in yourself.. not limited by identities of names, faces, family ties or your position. Losing self in the path means gaining access to infiniteness within. And that is possible when someone chooses to take up spirituality despite one’s love and liking for life (as it exists now). No one knows what tomorrow is going to bring to you… Situations change drastically, unexpectedly. Who knows your love for life will be replaced with a sense of repentance and frustration in few months.. or even within weeks. So its better to enjoy your lovely life and at the same time prove that you are intelligent.. intelligence will tell you that the enjoyable situations won’t last forever. So NOW is the time to discover a source of joy, peace and abundance.. so that when things don’t go all that well as you think you can still rejoice and love your life. In fact when someone is truly in love with one’s life.. when things are going well.. when you are not burdened with the situations you are in.. then only the possibility of you succeeding in self-discovery is highest.
You say “i have no marriage and sex.. But i love attract women, respect any women.” I understand what you are saying. You are saying I have no experience of marriage and I am attracted to women. In your age, I doubt anyone can respect women.. I agree some can treat eligible women with dignity but that too is driven by their core desire of becoming ‘likable’. One conducts himself sanely only to gain appreciation and avoid being tagged a redneck or a BAMA. For you it is natural to be attracted to women and that simply shows you are normal and ready to have sexual experience. But since you have used word ‘marriage’ before sex, it means you are guided by prototype Indian morality that license of sex is granted only after marriage. Nothing wrong in it though except you are not aware what surprises marriage cane bring along.
I have heard… Once Mulla Nasiruddin got fed up with his nagging wife. He never expressed his resentment and anguish to his wife and kept on accumulating all the stress. So finally he fell ill. His wife took him to doctor. Doctor took Mulla to the examination room while his wife waited outside.
After completing his questioning and checkup for almost half an hour doctor came out and told Mulla’s wife, “Listen to me madam, Your husband’s condition is caused due to stress and deteriorating. It is now upon you to help him recover. Serve your husband healthy and nutritious breakfast every morning. Keep him happy and don’t engage in any arguments and fights with him. Don’t watch TV serials, instead give that time to him. Don’t demand new dresses, jewelry etc. If you can do these things for one year, he will recover completely.”
Doctor then went back and asked Mulla to come to consultation room where he prescribed some vitamins etc. and told Mulla that he has briefed Mulla’s wife about his illness.
On the way back Mulla asked his wife about what doctor told her about his illness and Mulla’s wife replied seriously..
“umm… Doctor said, your chances of survival are rare.”
PK, you say “my doubt is, sex is against spiritual and god way” This is your doubt you say but when someone is in doubt one thinks and applies oneself to evaluate one’s doubt… I don’t think you have ever thought about this question yourself. If God was against sex why in the first place He decided to make it mandatory step in the procreation and furtherance of a specie. If you would have said that God is against IVF, that was worth debating or discussing but here you are challenging the ‘way of your own physical creation’ to be against God’s way. If you ask me, I would go to the extent of saying that God’s true representative act on earth is sex.. God created this universe and this attribute of creativity can be exhibited by humans only through ‘sex’. It is through sex mankind expresses whatsoever little ‘godliness’ they have. Men or women can not create universe, they can not make sun and moon to prove that too are empowered but by all means they can make babies and they do. In fact God wants them to or else why He would have not made it essential part of human existence and biology. May be sex is a spiritual need.
If you ridicule sex or call it unnatural then the most unnatural phenomenon or being would be ‘You’. You are the produce and outcome of sexual union. Sex is natural by all means however no one can stop you from treating it unnatural or sinful. Do you feel your body is unnatural? Do you feel you are an artificial, factory made specimen? I know you don’t.. so why have doubt on naturalness of the very process of your own creation? There is no substance in your fearful doubt thus.. the priest and preachers seem to ridicule it. I understand what you truly mean when you say “Mostly master have no interest in women, love and sex.“
Here’s a joke for you to bust the seriousness you are clouded with.
On the first day God created the sun – so the Devil countered and created sunburn. On the second day God created sex. In response the Devil created marriage. On third day God created intelligence.. though it was tough for the devil but finally he thought over and he created the species of priests and preachers.
Beloved PK, Priests and preachers are not Masters! And no Master has ever condemned sex nor women but only priests have. I don’t know which Masters you are talking about. The one of the greatest ever known Master of humanity is Krishna. He is the one who seem to have the complete knowledge of universe, universal laws. He is the one who can speak on any path of spirituality with complete confidence. He resurrected the path of Karma Yoga, Gyan Yoga and Bhakti Yoga for humanity. He is the one who summarised the whole spirituality in the commandment of love and selfless duty. He was not a preacher.. that is why he propagated what he professed. Krishna is known to be ultimate ‘lover’… almost always flocked with women around him wherever permissible. He is said to have not one but sixteen thousand wives. Even if this number of wives may be exaggerated but it definitely implies he was not avert to the idea of sex and togetherness with women.
Yet another Master Yogi is Shiva, who happens to enjoy the company of his beloved consort Shakti. He and his consort are the originator of all Yoga and Tantra streams. They are said to be in constant conjugal union (Shiva Lingam which you worship is representation of this state) which can be accomplished only when someone worships love and can sustain infinite sexual pleasure. Tantra has been most accepting (literally and in reality) of human sexuality. The path of ‘Tattva Shakti Vigyaan’ which I, along with my consort Ma Shakti Devpriya Anand Nath teach is also not against women and sex in anyway.
No doubt there are ways of spiritual growth which ask you to abstain from sex and contact with women but that doesn’t make sex any less sacred. That doesn’t necessarily mean women will always be spoiler of your spirituality. Most of our great seers and Rishi’s were married. They had children and still enjoyed enlightenment. Nanak, Kabir, Malookdas, Gurdjieff, Aurobindo Ghosh, Ramakrishna Paramhamsa, Neem Karoli baba, Gautam, Vashishtha, Kapil, Janak and thousands of others could never be treated spiritual if having sex and getting married was unnatural. They could not have reached these heights ever if sex was anti-spiritual. If sex and women were to take away your spirituality and sanity then spirituality would be really very superficial phenomenon. Mind you sex is not bad – sexuality is. If you don’t understand this phrase then you can ask again and I would be happy to elaborate but in brief the act in itself is pious and divine but constant thinking, longing, imaginations, fantasizing is bad and big obstacle to spiritual growth.
Sometimes we are so much engrossed in the rut that obvious doesn’t seem natural. So much you have been educated that unlearning is difficult.
A philosophy professor gave ‘a one question final exam’ after a semester.
The students was already seated and raring to go when the professor picked up his chair, placed it atop of his desk and wrote on the board: “Using everything you have learned this semester, prove that this chair does not exist.”
The knowledgeable disciples rushed to answer. Fingers ran through pages, erasers erased, notebooks were filled in utmost furious fashion. In fact some students wrote over 40 pages in one hour attempting to refute the existence of the chair.
One student, sitting in the last row of the class however, was up and finished in less than a minute.
Weeks later when the grades were posted, the rest of the group wondered how he could have gotten an “A” when he had barely written anything at all.
His answer consisted of two words:
PK, innocence is natural.. being knowledgeable is not. Sex is natural.. perversion is not. Woman is natural and real.. her mental image is not. Drop your knowledge in the dust bin and your head in the feet of a Master before you attract a woman and start respecting her. (Laughs)
Blessings from Masters..
– Ach. Agyaatdarshan Anand Nath