I’m 28 years old and still virgin . ., I can feel the energy in my body and this is wondering me., For example, when I have to work all hours with one of my colleagues. I think he can get through my mind and I feel a burning sensation in the second chakra., I have tried to dress and behave for his like. But I think he’s not interested. What can i do for my issue. in your opinion is a sexual partner is a solution to my problem.
Though you have used words like ‘second chakra’ in your question but having understood your problem through your limited words I am prompted to say that your problem is not spiritual in nature. If you are having mental inclination towards feeling the intimacy and materialist joy of physical togetherness, now is the time for you to get a partner for life, not a sexual partner. Presence of a trustworthy, intimate partner will definitely help and ease things out for you. Casual sexual engagement is a bad bargain over all. It is not about only about virginity or something physical rather keeping the mental and energetic sanctity intact.
A spiritual person is extremely careful in exposing one’s energies to strangers who may be soaked completely in the muck of negativity, greed, lust and carrying an unexploded bombshell loaded with the splinters of deepest possible-dissatisfaction, poisonous fantasies, hatred for someone else or self, animalistic cravings, disfigured emotions, animalistic instincts and deep rooted dis-ease. In ordinary circumstances a person is able to hold and suppress these energies in one’s energy body posing sane and normal however as soon as the extreme is reached the orgasmic impetus loosens this grip and all these suppressed energies are let loose. There’s an explosion of energies on both the bodies that virtually the two individual energies become one for sometime. These information-packed (positive or negative) energy quanta that are floating in the collective (unified) energy-body need minimum of 12 minutes time to settle and go back to their respective source (energy body of that individual where from it was released) and that is why an extended period of full-body post-orgasmic intimacy between the partners has been recommended in Kamasutra also. It should be kept in mind that physical, mental and spiritual health plus the deep feeling of love, dedication, care and honesty of the partner can never become less important despite giving this 12 minute cooling-off period. Why? Because an intense exchange still happens between these information laden quanta for there’s no denying of the fact that sexual act is an intimate communion beyond physicality.
I am suggesting to stay away from casual sex or trying things out with someone who is not deeply committed and feels deep love towards you because such a sexual interaction leads to holes in your Aura, the energy body and thereby the energy keeps draining. Casual physical intimacy especially in non-committal cases charges up the energy atmosphere of conjugation only in negativity. Such contact definitely makes auric-transfusion of energies and dominantly negative personality traits (even some diseases such as migraine, depression, anxiety and panic attacks can get transferred due to auric-interaction) are absorbed by both the partners. I am saying this with a futuristic approach considering sometime later in your life you may get interested in your spiritual elevation and at that time such mistakes of past become a real road-block. Since you don’t know it happens you stay unaware of such leakage. And also you don’t know how to repair the damage or lock your aura it also makes you prone to negative para-normal forces which start sucking your energies away and affect your nature. This happens when you are in deep sleep.
Finally, Your understanding of chakras and energy movements is also not mature enough so first get yourself exposed to some more experiential learnings under the guidance of an able Master. After that only you will be able to differentiate whether that this burning sensation is an organic symptom or just energy built-up. Mind you, sexual arousal and urinary track inflammation is not the sign of chakra-energy-built-up.
Ehsaa, Learn to channelize your energies till you have a noble, lovable and committed arrangement to pour them out physically.
Love and light
– Acharya Agyaatdarshan Anand Nath