||Be the Master of your Energies||

||Take control of your Energies||

… Conscious sex is a gateway to the divine.

While you must keep in mind that even normal sex is not detrimental to spirituality in any sense (better so if you know how to conserve your energies during the process) but the unilateral release of energy as in masturbation definitely causes a big dent in your spiritual progress. I would prefer to drop the details of energy dynamics in physical body during any sexual experience to the biologists and medical scientists. Also what hormonal changes and secretions happen from the time of physical or thought-trigger is field of research for them. My concern and explanation would be focus more on your astral-energy-body dynamics because that is the plane which governs your spirituality index.

Majorly three chakras are active during the act (from trigger to PONR), each one attaining its peak activity at different times because energy circulation is not a continuous process rather some build-up also happens due to your attachment to specific type of pleasure or shift of consciousness. Right from Sexual arousal to zenith of experience the three active chakras (energy centers) are – The Base Chakra, The heart Chakra and Third Eye Chakra. For man – The process trigger is around Root chakra and Third Eye but for woman the trigger is from Heart Chakra. A man gets trigger through mental imagery and seeing – as well as some physical stimulation around base chakra can ignite him. It does not mean man never gets trigger from heart chakra but in normal circumstances heart-trigger is very feeble or even may be completely absent.  Man can derive stimulation from pornographic imagery more than women do it is because a real trigger for woman would be presence of love, tenderness and care. Women would feel more high on trigger if they feel loved and cared (heart chakra). For a man even violent triggers can work but most women would go off if violent expressions populate beginning of the act. Women would get trigger from heart chakra in majority of the cases. That does not mean root chakra and third-eye chakra in women are completely inactive as far as triggering is concerned, mild receptiveness at root chakra and visual imagery can work at the beginning but mostly not. And that is the reason most of women would find their eyes are voluntarily getting closed. Men instead would like to watch and keep their eyes open throughout except at the peak.

Another important point to keep in mind is that the ejaculation chakras of Men and Women are different – While Men ejaculate the energy flows out from Third Eye and Root Chakra and on the contrary Heart Chakra becomes receptive (opens)… In case of Women the Heart Chakra is the chakra of orgasmic ejaculation. It is Heart chakra which gets activated starts radiating energy. Understanding this dynamics you would appreciate why women may have multiple orgasms and peaks during one act and still not get tired while men would feel drained in just one. This happens because Men will have two floodgates opened throughout while women have only one.  The pleasure is also different – Women will have flowering at Heart chakra in their orgasm where as men have momentary blooming of Third Eye chakra and Root Chakra. Now..

Man emits energy at root, Woman receives at Root.

Woman emits energy at Heart – Man receives at heart.

Man emits at third eye and woman receives at third eye.

Even when two partners of opposite sex engage with each other without having knowledge and appreciation of energy dynamics and also as a result of sexual instincts their Chakras are neither completely open nor synchronized (remember every charka is pulsating at a definite frequency in every individual) thus most of the energy expelled by both partners at different times just dissipates in the oblivion. And when even small fraction of energy is conserved by mutual transmission that normal session does not remain normal, instead of this being tiring and exhausting becomes refreshing for both of the partners. In Masturbation the energy can NOT be retrieved back or circulated hence the irreparable loss and masturbation can NEVER be a refreshing experience. At best such unilateral release can be relieving sometimes when lot of energy-built up is giving discomfort to you. In such cases you feel relieved but depleted as well.

Whenever you are engaging in singular act you are risking the makeup of your energy body and thus long term emotional and intellectual behaviour of yours. Men who engage in the act would have issues like losing temper easily, quick untimely arousals and most importantly inability to receive and respond to love. Such people tend to suspect their partners when they enter into a relationship. This happens because at the peak moment heart chakra opens to the contamination of environmental energies and with repeated episodes of dry run it hardens. The spiritual roadblock manifests in your inability to receive love. It is said that if you can not love you can not experience God for God’s primary quality is abundant, unconditional love.

Although physically masturbation may be less damaging and exhausting for women yet spiritually they are at more loss when compared to men. Women suffer different consequences. At singular peaks women completely open their Root Chakra and Third Eye Chakra thus being vulnerable to seepage of environmental energies in their psyche. Such contamination at Third Eye Chakra and Root Area may create headaches. Such women may have complaints of pain in the legs/knees and they are prone to UTI. Dry run at Heart Chakra makes such subjects prone to get touchy and emotional and low on acceptance. Such subjects find themselves stuck up at lower chakras and unable to get deeper in meditation due a lot of negative built-up (garbage) at lower as well as higher chakras.

You know that you have not grown up in fairly normal environment and definitely that wasn’t in your capacity to control. The situation you face now is what you are concerned with and I understand all the preaching, teachings and even your own resolutions do not work for you. But it is better to examine what are the triggers which compel to get into this act. I shall definitely want you to know how you can counter those triggers and come out of your compulsive behaviour. You shall also know the precautions and list of Do’s and Don’ts it at all you at sometime can not stop yourself from engaging in singular act for pleasure or release.

It is my suggestion you stay calm, look deeper, observe objectively and identify what pushes you do that. I shall definitely speak more about what are the factors and how you can help yourself but till then you work on it..

Enough for today,

Shivoham

- Ach. Agyaatdarshan

||Take control of your Energies||

… A child reaches sexual maturity only after successfully crossing all interim development phases. Each phase manifests itself at a fixed age in healthy conditions. Understanding the normal genetic aging code Indian Masters had clearly divided life in four phases (they called it Ashrams) namely – Brahmcharya (period of learning and abstinence), Grihastha (period of material acquisition and persuasion of rightful pleasures), Vanaprastha (period of practicing detachment) and Sanyaas (complete isolation from worldly affairs and pursuit of self-perfection) and it is not just by chance that they arrived at this sequence. They had put all their knowledge and experience in postulating this categorization. People in general do not want to accept this abstinence thing as they presumed there could not be any effect upon their normal development  even if they find themselves engaged in sexual activities and their presumptions were well supported by modern medical scientists. But this notion is not true.

Recently a team of researchers conducted a study and concluded that sexual activities in teenage may affect normal brain development. The growth and interconnection of neurons is directly affected if premature sexual experience comes in the way of normal development. It is nothing new for those who trust wisdom of Masters for they know when it comes from Masters it has to have some value and sound basis behind this. The abstinence is a virtue in the developing age by any means but unfortunately the current state of this planet is uncongenial to support it. Kids are getting exposed to sexually arousing stimulus and not only their normal development is getting affected but habits such as masturbation is doing much harm than meets the eyes. I am not so much concerned with what physical or emotional flaws can creep in the psyche of an individual rather referring to harms pertaining to the spiritual development and growth in particular.

Masturbation or Sex both are an outlet for energy release. This energy release is mostly unidirectional (outward) and tires you rather than refreshing essentially so in Masturbation and I don’t think you need any subject matter expert’s approval to validate your own experience of exhaustion and fatigue after your orgasmic peak or ejaculatory spell. The vital fluids (especially in case of men) are not dead things like saliva… these are full of creative energy and life, capable of creating yet another life. It is huge loss so much so that it is sufficient to make you sleepy, tired and exhausted. To make up for that loss body requires rest… Most of the people would want a nap after such an episode, men and women alike and that is the reason the masturbation or sex is used like sleeping pill for fighting temporary insomnia. No proof or logical deduction is required to prove the effect of sexual energy release on your overall energy levels. The phenomenon of energy release is common to any kind of sexual release but since we are discussing singular act in particular so let me give you brief understanding of what happens in that. I shall be also trying to introduce you to some techniques using which you can save lot of energy at least in sexual conjugation.

But before we proceed further let me clarify that if anything joins (or bridges) the world of animals and gods it is sex. The sexual experience is the highest possible experience in the domain of animals. Man too is an animal and thus he feels so much pull towards this particular experience. Till the time you have not experienced God it is Sex which you yearn for. What else would you want… you are not informed enough. No secrets are being whispered in your ears about the ecstasy associated with the experience of Samadhi, meditation or God realization. No one is telling you how beautiful it is to engage in meditation and feel elevated. And who could inform you? For that he/she should have experienced it in the first place. After all Samadhi is not a social phenomenon. It is rare, extremely rare! One out of a million is probably walking the path towards God or self-realization. Out of those few only handfuls are able to stay focused and disciplined. Out of thousands who stay disciplined and focused only one succeeds in getting correct guidance. Out of flock of thousands who get right guidance very few have faith to sustain their practice or Sadhana and then one of them gets glimpses of beyond. Out of thousands who get the glimpse of beyond only one is able to completely, understand it wholly and master it. It is not out of place to quote what Sri Krishna says to Arjuna  in Srimad Bhagwadgita “मनुष्याणां सहस्रेषु कश्चिद् यतति सिद्धये॥ यतिताम अपि सिद्धानां कश्चिन् माम् वेति तत्त्वतः॥“ Chapter 7-Verse 3|| He says Out of thousands who get siddhi or success in entering the gate of divine it is rarely to find one who completely understand me. So how would it become a social phenomenon? Perverted Sexual practices, alcohol, drugs are naturally and freely available and when these are there why should one bother about Samadhi?

For this higher animal called man God has been kind enough to grant a window through which he can peep in His kingdom and that’s why till the time one doesn’t experience God there is Sex. The difference among other animals and man however is his capacity to abstain. Till the time a man is not capable of scrutinizing and understanding this drive (wo)man engages in this act blindly under the rush of his/her instinct also that till then there is no possibility of any journey beyond. This animal called man is definitely capable of using the sexual experience to enter in the territory of divine but only if he/she can bring it in his/her conscious domain. By developing a deeper understanding of this energy, its dynamics and its flow you can also learn the techniques to preserve this energy. Once you are able to control the flow of this energy then the same energy can become a bridge between two (Divine-Animal) territories. That is why for any spiritual seeker abusing of this act, experience or energy is considered to be detrimental to her/her growth and it is so.

Keep in mind that it is possible to take control of your sexual energy and that is what is given to you in “Tao of Creation Level – 3 Deeksha”. Then Sex can then become the gate if one choose to use it. You are given techniques and practices to manage and redirect the energy. As you learn and progress you feel empowered and elevated. When for the first time you understand what this energy could to you, your outlook towards the whole process changes. The same energy then feels like a divine gift to you and Kundalini, the seat of this energy then becomes your Mother. In real sense it is a mother because by passing through this you are reborn..

Now the dynamics of energies- I would talk about both, the men and women. In fact masturbation (for both sexes) is essentially coupled with energy loss both at physical plane and at the plane of energy body. In the singular act apart from losing your vital fluids whole lot of energy is spent in your physical efforts as well to make your body reach that point of momentary ecstasy. You would be surprised to know but the experience and energy dynamics of Men and women are completely different. As compared to women men tend to lose more because women are designed to receive and during the act of masturbation their risks are different than men. We shall understand the elaborate secret dynamics of sexual energy tomorrow till then relax.

I am not suggesting or imposing a decision upon you to refrain from what you have been doing or addicted to. You are free to do what you like but I just advise you to be more watchful of your thoughts, the sensations, the triggers and even the rise and fall of your tides.. it will help you appreciate what is going to come next.

Enough for today,

Shivoham

- Ach. Agyaatdarshan

Correct way of dealing with ‘Hightides’ of Spiritual Energies?

Dear Master,

Firstly, thank you for helping many of us, including me, to understand more deeply into the science of our culture. My particular interest has been Yoga and through many of your postings, it has helped me immensely to understand better on the practice.

I have one issue that i could not obtain an answer, though your reply to PJ ( Yoga Kriya & Sex ) was most helpful. Allow me to elaborate on my question.

I have been practicing Kriya Yoga for the last 6 months, with sequence of Pranayam, Aum chanting, Bandas lock. I have learned it from a India, though i am not residing there. I have to say the practice has helped me a lot to be more aware and calm.

But over many years, i do have a habit. I very regularly masturbate – almost daily. I tried to control the habit but it keeps coming back.

Since i am putting effort with lots of interest to practice my Kriya Yoga daily, does this masturbating habit of mine affects my spiritual development ? Is it like taking 1 step forward ( with Yoga in morning ) but taking 2 steps backwards ( masturbating at night ) ?

The reason i am asking is, i have read on the internet that semen is the key to spiritual development. If its is wasted ( like masturbating ), the spiritual growth is stunted. The explanation was ” Semen is like oil and Kundalini is like Fire. If there is less oil, the fire doesnt burn so well “.

Can you help me with my question Master ? Does my bad habit adversely affect my spiritual growth ?

Thank you Master,

SK

Master speaks

 

Many questions like these have come to me.. some questioning the very basis of abstinence for spiritual growth, some needing techniques to curb the urge of frequent ejaculation, some asking whether they can go for paid sex while still practicing and meditating for spiritual elevation.. some enthusiasts wanting me to elaborate upon the process of spiritual (tantrik) conjugation; while some want to know the science behind the processes the others wish actual techniques be revealed through which preservation of sexual energy can be achieved. Some, in fact sounded as if they wanted me to second their assumption that even while staying engaged in sexually-indulgent life-style one can progress spiritually. Needless to say there have been many many questions concerning masturbation and spiritual growth just like the one above… And I understand many of these people who asked such questions are sincere enough in their endeavours of rising in spirituality. Unfortunately most of these people, uneducated (in handling spiritual energy) and uninitiated (lack of proper Deeksha by Master) have been clueless in the matter of energy-management. And that is natural.. after all there is no one to teach and guide them on sublimation and channelization of raw energies.. especially such explosive state of energies when one engages in spiritual practices like breathing exercises, mantras, asanas, intentions, meditations etc.

If I tell you that the universe comes into existence through interaction and conjugation of opposite energies – male and female, Yin and Yang, Shiva and Shakti and You are no exception.. that you are the transmutation of that energy only it would be just a concept. That is not your experience neither you have been so thoughtful ever except in justifying your sexual urge through statements made by psychologists like Sigmund Freud who postulated that sex drive is not only the mother of procreation but the primary motivational force in social human behaviour. These postulations and principles in fact make no sense to you and you still go through the turbulent and downward experience of fear and fatigue mixed with guilt and genuine repentance after losing your ’Jing’, the vital fluid. This downwardly state of mind and being is your real experience. It is more true for males as they visibly seem to lose a precious matter which could otherwise could find itself responsible for bringing yet another life in this world.

Look around and you will know that nature has made all the arrangements for its sustenance. Required instincts have been infused in animal kingdom and necessary association of pleasure with the activity of procreatin ensures every species engages in reproduction. Every animal has a natural and blind desire for sex and union with opposite sex when their bodies are ready for it and so is true for humans. It is quite normal for a boy to be attracted to a girl and vice versa under the influence of sexual instincts when their bodies are ready for it however the day when this desire and capacity matures does not appear one fine morning. Its gradual, in steps..

With each passing day a child is preparing itself for sexual maturity.. his whole body is growing to acquire strength and stamina to be able to engage in sexual procreation. This journey towards acquiring strength is continuous however psychologists have broadly divided in phases of sexual maturity.. In fact most of the psychologists agree that there are five major phases in sexual development… starting from Oral phase to Genital stage. Under healthy habitat and free surroundings these five phases spread till first 21 years of your life, final phase setting itself up around 18 years of age in boys and 16 years of age in girls. By healthy surroundings I mean the innocence of atmosphere is maintained and that there are no external, artificial aids provided for sexual stimulation/education such as Television, Erotic writings and images, sexual abuse, indecent contact by any adult with them, parents engaging in open sexual expressions/acts. This also means that children are allowed to learn and matures through open interactions, experience and exploration there shouldn’t be any kind of moral policing as well. In such a natural atmosphere a male child would grow naturally acquire complete sexual maturity around 21 years of age and a girl little bit earlier. But this is not happening!

Till recent past many tribes in remote jungles and hills had such free and unpolluted atmosphere that you would be surprised to know that without having any knowledge of contraceptives none of the girl ever got pregnant before 18 years of age. It is no surprise. In fact, when human offspring are allowed to grow in a naturally free environment their sexual development is un-skewed, flawless and has extremely sound basis… but you have not been so lucky. So called technological development and boom in infotainment industry has surely done one wrong if not many.. it has polluted and sexually invaded the innocence of childhood. The innocent territory of developing age is now populated with so much sexual stimuli and information that ideal sexual behaviour is far off from natural. This unprecedented expansion of homosexuality in today’s youth is yet another byproduct of this sexual pollution due to invasion of media… after all 50% of world’s population is below 25 years of age!

If a child is allowed to grow freely in an unpolluted environment he/she may yet discover some or the other method for attaining pleasure through self-simulation but then it will not be matching the generally prevailing prototype masturbation techniques. Each will discover its own method. This would ideally happen in the phase of sexual development which is referred to as “Phallic Stage”…  this stage concerns with discovery of genitals however mostly the urge of deriving pleasure from bodily stimulation occurs due to conscious or unconscious sexual stimulus or learning from out side…  Is it not surprising that 99.9% of any community masturbate in one particular way.. and that some isolated tribes use very different technique for self-obtained sexual gratification? This indicates that though unknowingly but somehow even the process of masturbation is also being taught. Definitely this knowhow is being transmitted to kids in some or the other way by the elder lot. In fact except in ideal situation such overlap and spillage of sexual-information between two generations can’t be ruled out or avoided because few weak links in the social web may not be disciplined and sane enough to not pollute a kid around. Once that happens it spreads through peer-learning like jungle fire. This information and techniques are not on-passed in an open, healthy ways rather are whispered as guarded secret thus these become object of extreme interest. Once a child become obsessed with it he/she is unable to follow natural sexual growth curve then onwards. This is happening with almost 90% of children today, you could be an exception. Are you?

Psychologists call it ‘Fixation’… which means getting stuck in one of the phases.  In prevailing social situations mostly children are unable to pass through the phallic phase normally…  they learn one or other method or secret and get stuck up here. Since the act – be it engaging with self or others, is associated with pleasure, momentary peak of ecstasy and relaxation thereafter more often than not this becomes an addiction in longer run. Such individuals are inept in managing their energies and emotions for they are not able to come out of this ‘fixation’… Such kids may also be found to display certain obsessive compulsive behaviors. These grow up in people amongst you who when feel energetic, agitated or angry craving for Energy-Release sets in.. Also when they feel helpless, ineffectual, deprived, or burdened in some way, in this state of mind they crave for comfort—and sexual arousal feels good. Both ways they want it! Isn’t it? Now there is no way out… you get trapped completely because when you feel high you are pushed into it and when you feel low you seek it. The cycle continues and at times journey from childhood to youth has no bearing upon this habit…

The agony of all spiritual searchers of this category is that they abuse their energies. They feel it is sexual but that is not true.. spiritual practices do stimulate various energy centers and the one which is already tender and most fiddled with gets the sensations first..

Enough for today.. shall talk more about it tomorrow.

Shivoham

- Agyaatdarshan