Why should I feel responsible for my parents?

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Beloved AD.

One more thing was bothering me that is related to my parents,That is do I have any responsibility towards my parents? Sure they raised me they take care of me etc but isnt it their duty infact not doing this on their part would be wrong by them,I did not tell my parents before birth that i want to be born or something?it was their decision to have a child and hence their responsibility to raise me,so i dont think i have to “repay” them in any way.Please tell me if i am gettin it all worng?

- AC

Beloved AC,

Life doesn’t end at that point where our sight, perception and reasons give up. If you don’t know a thing about a subject you trust the words of masters in that field. Majorly there are three ways to arrive at a conclusion on any subject matter -

1. Prathyaksha Pramaan (Concluding on the basis of what you see and experience directly)
2. Anumaan Pramaan (Applying different logical approaches and deriving inferences from what you see)
3. Shabda Pramaan (When preceding two methods fail and you take written/spoken words of masters in that field)

The doubts or questions we have about life and world are dealt with using these above methods. But remember when you don’t know – you will have to trust the words of Master. You did not see the electrons, atoms, electromagnetic waves.. you have not seen numbers, decimal and various other notations (you know their symbols and functionality only.. not seen in physicality) but you trusted the Masters’ words and now you know that whatever you believed in was not just a utilitarian assumed. These things exist not only as concept but also capable of resolving extremely complex problems and challenges. So you will have to believe the words of Masters here on the birth, life, its purpose and destination.

As a Master, I must tell you that although you do not remember but you “wanted to be born”. Although you do not know but you “chose your parents” and also decided what training you would like to go through in this life to be able to raise yourself on the path of spirituality. In fact nothing in this world happens without your wish, desire. All the interplays and so called drama of life is then carried out in the framework you chose. Your parents are not just the biological carrier of your DNA. They have been chosen by you. There are so many karmic exchanges which are supposed to churn in this life. You have chosen to come to a civilized section of human race to come here in. And you already knew (before your birth) that in this society parents take good care of children. It was your motive to be born to a family who takes care of not only your basic needs but also facilitates your intellectual growth. And you have succeeded in that – your parents have raised you well, given you the desired education, helped in your intellectual progress. It was not their duty as you say – you anticipated it will happen in this way that these parents will take care of you and it has happened! It was a trait which you had taken a view of while still in spiritual world (the world or realm where you come from on this earth) this trait and chosen this family as per your level.

Even in this so called civilized world parents have choice to kill any aspiring soul who plans to come in this world, much before he is born. You have been lucky in this regard. In this civilized society parents (in their selfish and passionate behaviour towards pleasure of life) are free to let their children spoil themselves by not protecting them against bad thoughts and company, by not giving them morals, by encouraging them to do all wrong things.. but you have been fortunate to have parents who chose to stand by you for your protection against evils, diseases and possible traps of childhood and adolescence. It was not their duty Chanrashekar and they had in fact no obligation towards you to fulfill by just giving you birth. Some dreaded incidents have indicated that parents can even kill their children if parents are unable to take on with some challenging life-situations. They have neither killed you nor out of their frustration they have dumped you in the nearest dust bin for all the havoc which gets created when a new-born enters a couple’s life. Your parents have done obligation to you and this obligation could happen because they were morally, spiritually strong people. They chose to go by their responsibilities which were shouldered upon them by existing system.. they could evade that but being morally right they did not.

Master’s say – Your parents are the first representatives of GOD here on earth and I echo this that that every parent who raises their child well as per his/her capacity deserves to be treated like that. I add here that even if parents do not do any such things still they should be revered for giving you a chance to come in this world through them. That they channeled you. This itself is sufficient.

Secondly Master’s say – Every child has responsibility towards their parents. Be guided by the rule that “किसी की जिम्मेदारी को अपना हक़ नहीं समझना चाहिए” (You should never take someone’s responsibility as your right)  this is a blessing and grace of theirs on you. So even if your parents would have failed in certain aspects you can not shun your responsibilities at any cost. You are here to contribute in your own growth and those who are around you. There is nothing wrong in becoming a teacher and guide for your own parents if they are fallen due to their karma. You can always choose to live a more dignified and respectable life rather.

At the end one last thing – When you are confused about a thing and your logic says something which your heart doesn’t accept, trust the words of heart for that is the voice of your inner conscience. Currently you are confused – your mind gives you reason to drop the responsibilities but somewhere your heart says this is not right. That is the reason you are asking a question.. you did not ask me “whether i should keep left during driving” neither you asked me “whether i should kill my roommate?” you did not because on first question you know your mind needs to be trusted – it is the law of land and we need to abide by that. On the second question your voice of heart says aloud “You have no right to hurt anyone and take away the light of living”. You take one of the other way.

Now I have given you enough food for thoughts and its your turn to make choices. I know you will not disappoint yourself.

Shivoham

- Ach. Agyaatdarshan

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2 comments on “Why should I feel responsible for my parents?

  1. AC replies as below through mail

    Beloved AD
    i am so glad i found you.i cant be more thankfull to god.i have always
    wondered whether all this just a system of utter chaos.as thats what the
    world seems to be.finally i am gaining interest in life ,my sole purpose
    to live is to learn and understand the mysteries of universe and
    life.Stumbling across your blogs was not mere accident infact if i look
    back at my life i can say for sure there are is no such thing as accident.
    Thank you so much for taking out time in replying to my emails.
    AC

  2. Truly well said: “Be guided by the rule that “किसी की जिम्मेदारी को अपना हक़ नहीं समझना चाहिए” (You should never take someone’s responsibility as your right) this is a blessing and grace of theirs on you.”

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