Master, I am hurt and I dont know how to overcome this feeling. Someone has cheated me and I feel like retaliating. Can you please help me with your soothing words?
Beloved Vivechana, There are so many readymade recipes available… each one of you would have read it in some or the other form. Every enlightened Master has spoken about forgiveness in his unique way. They spoke so because they recognized the value of forgiveness and underlying principles.
Mohammed Paigambar (MPBUH), is asking to forgive. He says “Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden (paradise) whose width is that of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous – Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity or in adversity, who restrain (their) anger and pardon (all) men – for God loves those who do good.” – Holy Qur’an
Who is listening?
Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. —Holy Qur’an
Who is preferring forgiveness over charity.. I know it is otherwise for Charity is easy. It is about throwing away but forgiving means you will have to assimilate the hurt and convert it to sweetness. Throwing away some coins and signed cheques is rather easy.
“Hold to forgiveness, command what is right, and turn away from the ignorant.” – Holy Qur’an
But I see you yourself are ignorant then how will you recognize what is right? Neither you can start from Forgiveness and lead to knowledge of oneness of all nor you can start from Knowledge to culminate in Forgiveness. I don’t think it is possible for you to forgive.
When the Holy Prophet Muhammad defeated his enemies in Mecca and returned to that city as its conqueror, he forgave them in the following words:
“No reproof be against you this day; Allah may forgive you, and He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy.” – Holy Qur’an
He could do so because he was messenger of the supreme light of the universe; the light which lights up every tiny particle of this world and your heart too. If you have not seen even spark of that light ever you can not forgive and if you did, staying in the state of hurt and revenge will not be possible. All spirituality is about being ‘ultimate selfish person’ of the world – if you wish to stay in peace and create goodness in your life and for that you are spiritual I can see you are utterly selfish. Are you really selfish? If you are then there is still some hope and I can teach you something but it seems you are ready to sacrifice your peace out of your love for the other.
In Hindu scripture Mahabharata it is mentioned that –
“One should forgive, under any injury. It hath been said that the continuation of the species is due to man’s being forgiving. Forgiveness is holiness; by forgiveness, the universe is held together. Forgiveness is the might of the mighty; forgiveness is sacrifice; forgiveness is quiet of mind; forgiveness and gentleness are the qualities of the self-possessed. They represent eternal virtue.” – Mahabharata
Have you ever enlisted what inner qualities you wanted in you? You were always so particular about what degree, which stream and what specialization and which company, which institute, what color of clothes and all.. If we do not value virtues there is no need to forgive. Revenge is better.
In Holy Bible we have following verses hailing forgiveness –
“Forgive us the wrongs that we have done, as we forgive the wrongs others have done us.”
This is a real good barter only if YOU succeed in doing what you want. I don’t know if that is possible for you at this moment because at this moment your hurt is because the other one is happy and that too without you. At this moment you want his unhappiness.. I don’t think you really want to forgive and if you want that would probably it would be so because you fear doing what is coming to your mind. May be fear of law, fear of losing your self-image… Dive within and find out, if you would have come to me even if you had strength and choice of walking someone over. Think!
“…Forgive, and you will be forgiven” – Holy Bible
Did all these words help? Did these words from Masters could soothe you? If not then why are you bothering yet another one? I am tired and I am sure you too would be exhausted by now. Go and sleep until you have courage to wake up to my love for you, His love for you Vivechana.
Love & Light