How can I forgive…

Master, I am hurt and I dont know how to overcome this feeling. Someone has cheated me and I feel like retaliating. Can you please help me with your soothing words?

-  Vivechana

|Can you forgive me please?|

Beloved Vivechana, There are so many readymade recipes available… each one of you would have read it in some or the other form. Every enlightened Master has spoken about forgiveness in his unique way. They spoke so because they recognized the value of forgiveness and underlying principles.

Mohammed Paigambar (MPBUH), is asking to forgive. He says “Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden (paradise) whose width is that of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous – Those who spend (freely), whether in prosperity or in adversity, who restrain (their) anger and pardon (all) men – for God loves those who do good.” – Holy Qur’an

Who is listening?

Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury.   —Holy Qur’an

Who is preferring forgiveness over charity.. I know it is otherwise for Charity is easy. It is about throwing away but forgiving means you will have to assimilate the hurt and convert it to sweetness. Throwing away some coins and signed cheques is rather easy.

“Hold to forgiveness, command what is right, and turn away from the ignorant.” – Holy Qur’an

But I see you yourself are ignorant then how will you recognize what is right? Neither you can start from Forgiveness and lead to knowledge of oneness of all nor you can start from Knowledge to culminate in Forgiveness. I don’t think it is possible for you to forgive.

When the Holy Prophet Muhammad defeated his enemies in Mecca and returned to that city as its conqueror, he forgave them in the following words:

“No reproof be against you this day; Allah may forgive you, and He is the most Merciful of those who show mercy.”  – Holy Qur’an

He could do so because he was messenger of the supreme light of the universe; the light which lights up every tiny particle of this world and your heart too. If you have not seen even spark of that light ever you can not forgive and if you did, staying in the state of hurt and revenge will not be possible. All spirituality is about being ‘ultimate selfish person’ of the world – if you wish to stay in peace and create goodness in your life and for that you are spiritual I can see you are utterly selfish. Are you really selfish? If you are then there is still some hope and I can teach you something but it seems you are ready to sacrifice your peace out of your love for the other.

In Hindu scripture Mahabharata it is mentioned that –

“One should forgive, under any injury. It hath been said that the continuation of the species is due to man’s being forgiving. Forgiveness is holiness; by forgiveness, the universe is held together. Forgiveness is the might of the mighty; forgiveness is sacrifice; forgiveness is quiet of mind; forgiveness and gentleness are the qualities of the self-possessed. They represent eternal virtue.”  – Mahabharata

Have you ever enlisted what inner qualities you wanted in you? You were always so particular about what degree, which stream and what specialization and which company, which institute, what color of clothes and all.. If we do not value virtues there is no need to forgive. Revenge is better.

In Holy Bible we have following verses hailing forgiveness –

“Forgive us the wrongs that we have done, as we forgive the wrongs others have done us.”

This is a real good barter only if YOU succeed in doing what you want. I don’t know if that is possible for you at this moment because at this moment your hurt is because the other one is happy and that too without you. At this moment you want his unhappiness.. I don’t think you really want to forgive and if you want that would probably it would be so because you fear doing what is coming to your mind. May be fear of law, fear of losing your self-image… Dive within and find out, if you would have come to me even if you had strength and choice of walking someone over. Think!

“…Forgive, and you will be forgiven” – Holy Bible

Did all these words help? Did these words from Masters could soothe you? If not then why are you bothering yet another one? I am tired and I am sure you too would be exhausted by now. Go and sleep until you have courage to wake up to my love for you, His love for you Vivechana.

Love & Light

- Agyaatdarshan

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3 comments on “How can I forgive…

  1. My Master,
    It is sheer pleasure being criticized by you. I am feeling better after having seen my true face in the mirror of your eyes.
    I will wake up soon in your light.
    In love with you forever..
    - Vivechana

  2. This is the appropriate blog for anybody who needs to find out about this topic. You understand so much its almost exhausting to argue with you (not that I really would want…HaHa). You undoubtedly put a new spin on a subject thats been written about for years. Nice stuff, just nice!

  3. Dear AD,

    It seems cliched, but forgiving one’s own self if certainly more difficult than forgiving others…

    Everyday I whip myself (metaphorically) when I am not able to be what the world wants me to be, a seemingly normal human being.

    I belong to those 1% of the world who stutter their voices out to the world and tries desperately to be normal.

    The stab of pretending to be “normal” everytime feels very gruesome and lacerating…its akin to the dilemma of an impostor priest who has found service in the feet of God, in a temple and lacks the bhakti…his entire life is spoilt in the false pretence of bhakti and his is the greatest deceit because he decieved himself and, therefore, attained neither material nor spiritual…

    Your sentences are usually pithy and terse…can you explain how to gain the courage to rise to the grace of being what I am, a stutterer…the courage to forgive and be at peace with myself…

    Moses had asked God not to give him the responsibility to talk to the King, for he was “slow of speech”…the pain in there is immense…trying to force your words out….

    Yours,
    KN

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