In the way of Tao of Creation we show you how hungry all your bodies are but we also show that it is your habit pattern which makes them so and your inner layers thus engage in absorbing everything – even if that is garbage. You can not stop feeding it, but continuous anxiety to feed on something or the other reduces your self–control and you are not able to stay alert, in control when temptations trigger a series of subconscious avalanche in your mind-body complex. So what do you do?
Start with little things. Watch out if the radio in your car and the television in your home is always on, just filling up the silence? Turn them off. Learn to appreciate contemplative silence sometimes.
Do you eat slowly or attack the food and continue until you feel stuffed? Control that urge. Learn to have your food in steps.
Are you always chewing, munching and drinking coffee, tea or cold drinks? Stop for a moment! Think if you could do without these for next 4 hours. In these 4 hours chant the mantra “Om Aing Hum” to de-tox yourself. Appreciate hunger instead (if you can).
Today’s generation is “Always ON(line) Generation”. Are you also one of them who are carrying their mobile device with them; chatting, texting, constantly alert for messages, listening to songs, or playing video games? If so, better specify a time for it all and if your professional commitments don’t allow you to do so fix a timeslot for yourself when you switch such gadgets off or decide NOT respond to anything, come what may. Turn a blind eye towards your Blackberry or i-Phone at least an hour a day. Do not cheat yourself by deciding to put these off just when you sleep pretending to stay away for 7 to 8 long hours. It is done best when you make it happen during normal activity hours. Incoming calls and messages can wait. Please understand games and secular music steal time away from you and also clutter your being and if your goal is to grow spiritually you must have to have some time for yourself. This simple resolution can take you a long way.
Learn to express your anger – do not suppress it. Most often than not the underlying psychological motive for masturbation is release of anger or frustration (for normal persons) and release of energy for people who engage in energy heightening activities like breathing exercises, gym etc. I am asking you to learn to express your anger because when at a later stage, you will stop masturbating, the anger will increase and that will surface on every trigger. It will be extremely necessary to deal with it in a healthy manner, or else you will find it “leaking out” on people you want to hurt the least.
Masturbation is detrimental to spiritual growth for the reasons it takes away your sanity. You engage in negative “Manasik Karma” during the act. Although it is physically a singular act yet it is not. Sexual fantasies are nothing but hidden intentions of the a repressed rapist in you. Have heart, don’t hurt those poor girls and women who have no power to stop your deeds in your fantasies. Thinking pattern of a spiritual seeker is extremely important so do something (even in your imagination) which you can admit to yourself in a respectful manner.
Remember to have realistic goals for yourself and learn to appreciate your solitude because when you are feeling deprived, ineffectual, weary, unrecognized, or alone a self-driven orgasm or ejaculation just feels right. So learn to appreciate small happy moments and achievements as that will keep you off your temptations.
Watch your tendencies. Do you prefer a seat in a restaurant wherefrom you can have better view of people around – especially good looking opposite sexes? Try otherwise and do not swing your eyes around to see what you would have missed otherwise.
Last but most important point for men– Do not allow your eyes to slip below the neckline of a female. Be attentive to your thirst when you are watching them from behind. That is not a very decent habit anyways. This self imposed restriction would do wonders in increasing your ability to sense energy currents at a later stage. Most of the males fail to sense and appreciate energy currents and thus fail in choosing right life-partner for themselves.
Do NOT be lured by those online Tantra Teachers or books. Tantra is not a game to be played by sexual people in search of spiritual experience. It is dance of spiritual (to the core) with clear intentions of finding inner source of joy and bliss. As such this is not as simple as mostly depicted. Various Yogic Kriyas, a tough discipline is to be observed before that. Many astral channels are to be created between Bhirava and Bhairavi before they can practice it together. All that preparation is done alone. Also finding a compatible partner whose chakras pulsate in the same frequency as yours is so very crucial or else all Tantra Practices would reduce to suction of mutual energies and nothing worthwhile can be achieved except experiencing “sex of a different kind”. It is only with that surrender and commitment and all the preparation, emotional and spiritual bonding gets dominant. Only then the energy revolves in circulatory path (in the shape of 8). Keep in mind that Tantra Partners are most committed partners. Once a Bhairavi of yours – Always a Bhairavi and viceversa. There is no returning back. In fact the most loving couples can not match that kind of mental attitude. If all the preconditions are not met it would equal to prostitution or forced sex which is not capable of generating this kind of energy dynamics.
One last suggetion for you to get stronger in your resolve and preserving our energies for spiritual attainment is that express love fearlessly in all ways to all people in all circumstances but do not be discouraged or disturbed if you are misunderstood. Gradually everything will fall in its right place.
Shivoham
- Ach. Agyaatdarshan

